Opposites DO attract

In class, we we're assigned to write an argumentative essay. This essay was based on relationships and how two people connect to one another. We had to agree on either opposites that attract or two people who are similar to each other. I agree with opposites attract because of my personal experience and what my perspective on my "ideal mate" is. i.e: My boyfriend is the exact opposite of me, yet we share some similar interests and views on politics and our planet. Here's my essay that I've wrote. Please provide any comments or feedback :)


There have been many studies opposing to this topic, however, everyone is entitled to their own opinions. In my opinion, i think some similarities brings two people together, but it’s the opposite things that seal them together. A relationship needs balance, and having differences will balance the two together. I also believe that differences within each other is what draws our attention to one another. Therefore, opposites will attract and produce a more enduring relationship.
According to a personal interview, Mate selection is driven more by a desire to connect with a partner who has characteristics that the other does not possess(Source F ,Winch).  I believe that the differences within each other will draw an interest and attention to one another. In the long run, it will help accept each other and help accept ourselves.
The yin-yang theory is that there’s an aspect for both parties, they create each other, balance each other, and transition into each other(Source G, Calabro). If there’s no ying, there’s no yang. Differences will help find common ground and find existence within. A relationship needs balance, which opposite traits can pursue and become whole.
Each one of us has different qualities and it is precisely these differences that draw us to our potential mates, and truly makes us connect with one another(Source H, Clark). What we admire in each other is our differences and will bring cooperation in a relationship. Differences also benefit by bringing strength in each other and as well as ourselves.

On the other hand, studies on mate selection have consistently found support for the “similarity attraction”. Yet, having a similar partner would be boring. Having the same interests and lifestyle habits means doing the same things and sometimes together. Learning from each others different interest and lifestyle habits may be more exciting than it seems to be. Also, we learn the importance of acceptance which is essential in a relationship and to ourselves.

In addition, a survey states that 92% said yes when similar religious affiliation is a major factor in having a successful marriage. Also, 94% said yes in having similar lifestyle habits contribute to the success of their relationship. On the contrary, mutual adjustments may be made, according to the yin and yang theory. This is one of the principles of transforming into another. There’s always room to make changes for each other.

Furthermore, a professor at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands claim, that interactions between opposites often do not develop into serious intimate relationships. And if they do, they usually end prematurely. But, every relationship has challenges, and these challenges may be because of the differences. Overcoming these challenges will aid in evolving a spouse into a better person and strengthen them.
In conclusion, I believe that opposites do attract and will always find their way to common ground. Having the same of two people will be too boring to bare in a relationship, which differences can draw the interest and excitement in each other. Also sharing some similarities like religious views, will bring two people together, but having those differences seals the bond together.